Do you still have a candy in the jar ? well. note, if you want to take the candy  in the jar that you must enter by hand. The result? not all will be able to take. Even if you can pick it up, then your hands will not get out of the mouth of the jar. so, Take one or two candy, so you can get out more ...

I'm sure you  have a dreams. Remember some time before you graduated high school. Have you ever had a desire to go to college, or work, or go abroad? still remember your dreams? How many of your dreams ? You may have to answer 3, 5 or 10. Some of the others  answered more than 10 of dream lists




Dreams are meaningful to you. Your dreams will assist in directing your potential, allocate your time and encourage you to select a partner. In addition,  Dreams will help direct your life. Certainly, if you aspire to become doctors, what should you prepare? You should be able to graduate from high school and then choose the Faculty of Medicine. Odds you'll choose the Faculty of Public Economic, right? Similarly, if you want to have a family , then you must prepare yourself, choose a partner who supports this vision and a shared vision to sustain it. So, your choice is determined by your dreams.

Therefore, if you do not have dreams or aspirations yet, What do you really want? The following points can at least help you: happiness, love, religion, health, finances, profession, peace, respect,  descendants,  friendship / brotherhood (frienship), skills, education and hobbies.

Select and write above the 3-5 points you want to achieve in the next 1-2 years. Yes, you must select it in order to focus. Remember the candy in the  jar! Its difficult to take all candy from the jar at once.  So, choose an easy point,  make you fun and  powerful.

Hopefully you can focus to drive your life, your potential, and minset you. Remember, you should be only take one or two candies. However, if you've managed to pick it up, then there is no prohibition for you how many times you'll have take candies in the jar. After you succeed in your choice of 3-5 points, then there is no prohibition for you to take a rest, Remember  3-5 points only.   Create your dreams, focus and after a successful take and over again ..

be success!


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by Donald L

You need to know how to stop worrying if you want to live life to the fullest. Why? Because worry doesn’t do you any good. It won’t help you live a better life. It won’t make you feel better and more energized. Instead, it will make you less happy and less productive.

But how can we do that? How can we stop worrying? How to stop worryingHere are eight ways:


1. Focus on what you can control

Thinking about things you can’t control puts unnecessary burden on your mind. For example, why should you worry about how bad the economy is? There’s nothing you can do about it unless you are a key person in the government. No matter how much you think about it, nothing will change. So instead of worrying about it, focus on things you can control like building your network and increasing your value. Don’t worry about things you can’t do anything about.

2. Use your imagination positively

Worry is a misuse of imagination.
Dan Zadra

Your imagination is a double-edged sword. You can use it to dream big dreams and keep your motivation high, but you can also use it to discourage yourself. People often worry about something because they fill their imagination with all the bad things that might happen. The reality is often not that bad, but it looks worse and worse because they give it too much attention.

3. Expect good things to happen

Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.
Benjamin Franklin

Not only should you use your imagination positively, but also you should expect good things to happen in your life. Instead of expecting something to fail, expect it to succeed. Instead of expecting people not to like you, expect them to like you. You should be realistic, of course, but always expect to be a winner in life.

4. Accept responsibility

You might make mistakes in the past and worry about the consequences. In this case, the solution is to accept responsibility. Don’t let your worry drag you down. Accept the responsibility and move on. You still have a lot of great things waiting for you.

5. Be grateful

It’s easy to focus on the few things that could go wrong that we forget about the many things that already go right. That’s why having an attitude of gratitude is important. It keeps your perspective in balance. It makes you realize that for one thing that goes wrong there are many more things that go right. Just start with these simple things to be grateful for.

6. Run your own race

Stop comparing yourself with other people. Comparing yourself with others will only drain your mental energy. You have your own race to run. Instead of comparing yourself with others, focus on being the best that you can be.

7. Simplify your life

The simpler your life is, the fewer things you could worry about. So instead of doing a lot of things, focus on the few things that are most fulfilling and give you the most return for your time and effort. Find your life purpose and use the 80/20 rule to choose the few important activities to focus on.

8. Have faith

You should focus on things you can control. But what about things you can’t control? What can we do to eliminate any worry about them? The answer here is faith. You need to believe that everything will go well no matter how bad it might seem. You need to believe that everything will come out better in the end. Having faith eliminates a lot of worries in your life. It gives you peace of mind.

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Everybody want to success, as well as financial, healthy live, love, religion, etc. I assure you will be action to get more success. Right ? but, Have You goal to succcess?



well, lets know about success ...

- they said at here ..
The achievement of one's aim or goal; financial profitability; One who, or that which, achieves assumed goals

- they said at there...
Catch per unit of effort.

- Another said at here..

Let's clear up some common misconceptions about success:

1) You don't need to be very smart to get it.

2) You don't need lots of connections to get it.

3) You don't need lots of extra time to get it.

4) You don't need access to lots of money to get it.

5) You don't need to have any special training or knowledge to get it.

- He said about success as below
Success is more than going to work every day and getting paid. Success means finding personal satisfaction in your work and loving what you do. And it means engaging with a social world: a world of clients and employers, but also of readers, users and other designers. It is those things that make us rich.


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Each of us defines success differently. In fact, Succees is not just instan. We have to struggle to get it. Yes, remember it!

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NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is nice science and art to building our character, motivation and esteem. More people use this art and science to hlp their more success.

You will be know adventage and power this NLP after read these. Will you ?



NLP Gaining Wider Acceptance

Yet, despite the objections of some Islamic traditionalists, NLP appears to be gaining wider acceptance in the broader Islamic world community as an aid to business, health, teaching and best practices in communication.

Muslimah Shamsudin, for example, used NLP for two positive purposes: to strengthen her successful training and to facilitate her devout practice of Islam during a visit to Japan.

"NLP is how you make sense of your world and most importantly how to make it what you want it to be. ...Basically, in using NLP, you need to focus on the good things you want to happen. Then, you need to figure out how to achieve these goals, and finally, you follow the steps to achieve them.

"For example, I wanted to be able to pray at the right time wherever I was, so I identified the steps I needed to follow. My first step was to pray to Allah (the All Mighty God) so that my requirement could be performed anywhere and that the people I was making a request of would meet my need. Only after such prayers would I request a praying place.

"I used NLP to achieve my training too. Before starting, I envisioned myself going through a good training and completing it successfully. I planned the things and steps I needed to take. So although I encountered some problems, I managed to get through."

– Muslimah Shamsudin, Manager, Quality Secretariat of Human Resource Department at KTMB (Malaysian Railways). She has a Diploma in Transport from the University of Wales and was an East Japan Railway Culture Foundation trainee in 1997, studying human resources management. – Japan Railway & Transport Review No. 16 (pp.46–47)

Another example of NLP being used by Muslims for business in ways that apparently do not interfere with their spiritual practice of Islam, is that of Shaikh Isam Rajab, Imam of The Islamic Center of New Mexico.

"(He) was twice licensed for memorizing the entire quran. He has a certificate in NLP 'Neuro Linguistic Programming' [as a 'business interest'], and judged quranic competitions in Kuwait 3 times."

– Texas Dawah Annual Convention IV, "The Muslim Future - Challenges and Promises"

NLP is increasingly becoming a part of a liberal education for Muslims interested in the fields of education and counseling.

"Manal Soliman attended the American University in Cairo where she majored in Mass Communication and minored in Economics. After her graduation in 1987, she went on to complete a TESOL certificate from Trinity College UK, a counseling course at Aberdeen College, Scotland, obtained a Facilitator of Parenting Groups certificate from Parentline Plus UK and obtained lately a NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) diploma from the International NLP Training Association.

"An active member of the community, both at home and abroad, Manal was responsible for coordinating and running the Arab Women Religious Education Circle, Spital Mosque, Aberdeen, Scotland from Jan 2001 to June 2003.

"She has delivered many talks to non-Arab Muslims and converts on various topics in Islam, as well as sessions in a program for Muslim girls in Aberdeen, Scotland on various issues that concern Muslim teenagers living in the west. She also took part in the organization of many women and children Muslim activities and parties in Aberdeen as well as Cairo."

– IslamOnline.net, "Live Dialog"

NLP's health benefits are also increasingly recognized in the Muslim world:

[Bahrain]: "TWENTY-ONE girls suffering from hereditary blood diseases such as sickle cell anaemia, Glucose 6 Phosphate Dehydrogenase (G6PD) and beta thalassaemia say a new scheme launched earlier this year has made a vast improvement to their lives.

"The one-year scheme got underway in January and is being spearheaded by the Bahrain Women's Society (BWS)....

"'We have gradually brought their girls closer together. Now whenever any of them gets sick they all go to visit. This created stronger bonds between them.'

"Activities are conducted by a number of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) trainers, psychiatrists and nutritionists, who have volunteered to co-operate on the project. The hope is that mothers and children on the scheme will now pass on their new knowledge to the rest of the community.

"...Mrs Al Saleh [the mother of a 12-year old girl enrolled in the programme] has attended a number of workshops and seminars organised under the new project.

"The last of those was a Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) workshop, Six Step Life Re-framing, by NLP trainer Mohammed Al Hamad.

"Thirty women, including society officials and guests, attended the event that specifically targeted mothers. It taught them ways of "re-programming" the way they think when dealing with their children.

"'The aim is to help them acquire a more positive attitude in dealing with their children's disease,' said Mr Al Hamad."

– The Gulf Daily News, Vol XXVIII NO. 181 Saturday 17 September 2005

NLP practitioner courses are often attended by, as well as trained by Muslims from around the world to learn and teach the skills of NLP for business, parenting and education.

While I would not presume to advise any Muslim on moral questions regarding NLP as it relates to Islam, clearly for some Muslims NLP is considered appropriate when used in a supporting role for their spiritual and/or secular practices.

Sufism and NLP

Sufism is the mystical branch of Islam. It originated in the 8th Century and focuses on “Fath Rabani" (Divine Awakening).

"In contrast to the legal-minded approach to Islam, Sufis emphasized spirituality as a way of knowing God."

– Ahmad S. Dallal

"O Lord, I, a beggar, ask of Thee more than a thousand kings may ask of Thee. Each one has something he needs to ask of Thee; I have come to ask Thee to give me Thyself."

– Abdullah Ansari of Herat (1006-1089)

Sufism was initially declared heretical by orthodox Islam but was eventually tolerated more widely so long as its adherents abided by Islamic laws.

In the words of Sufi teacher, Philippe de Vos, Sufism embraces approaches which "help to ease the pains of the heart and put us more in touch with the reality of our essence... Our disorders themselves are the raw material of our recovery."

In much the same way that NLP is compatible with other spiritual traditions, NLP can be useful in removing obstacles on the path to a greater spiritual connection. NLP facilitates self-discovery and aids focus during prayer or meditation. Fundamentally, NLP shares with many mystical traditions the observation that our internal processes have a great deal to do with our experience of the "outside" world and our interpretation of events in our lives.

"Whatever we perceive in the world around us tends to reflect who we are and what we care about most deeply, as in the old saying, 'When a thief sees a saint, all he sees are his pockets.'"

– Robert Frager, Heart, Self & Soul, The Sufi Psychology of Growth, Balance and Harmony

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